The Psychology Behind Flirting
Flirting can be a mysterious social dance. Some people make it look effortless, while others struggle without knowing why. Is there a science to doing it better? In this video, we’re breaking down Flirting 101 and 201, uncovering the psychology behind what makes a good flirt. Using unseen footage from Dr. Thomas Smithyman, a clinical psychologist and author of Dating Without Fear, we’ll dive into what flirting actually is, why it works, and how to do it effectively.
Check out Dating Without Fear by Dr. Smithyman: https://tinyurl.com/46b2w53w
and Dr. T’s Youtube: https://youtube.com/@DrThomasSmithyman?si=vwnQ0LE691WBJday
Written, Directed, Filmed, and Edited by Tejas Hullur and Ken Chwatek - @ChwatCity
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So, Valentine's Day just happened,
and if you're like me, you're on year seven of being...
Single.
Now, there's many reasons to why this is true,
the main one being I'm not really out there.
I don't put myself in situations where,
say, there's opportunity.
Basically, I'm not really good at this mysterious dance
we all like to call flirtation.
Some people have the skill to make it look easy.
For other people, it's not so easy.
Those people often get rejected without knowing exactly why.
since we uploaded our docuseries,
How to Become More Attractive Scientifically,
first of all, thank you.
But second, you know that in episode four,
we had the pleasure of talking to Dr. Thomas Smithyman.
Dr. T is a clinical psychologist
who has studied social anxiety for the past 20 years
and is even the author of this book, Dating Without Fear.
I've been researching this stuff, you know,
both personally and through literature for decades.
So when I sat down with him back in September,
I realized that we had this whole conversation about flirting that I had to cut out for episode 4
But looking back on it that conversation is really eye-opening
So tell me about yourself
Yeah, sorry. I guess I
Always thought that flirting was just about being confident and saying the right things
But it turns out that there's a whole science to it that goes way deeper than I even realized
So today, we're going to go into Flirting 101,
basically the what, how, and why we do this social dance as humans.
But also, we go into Flirting 201,
which is basically a model that came up during my conversation with Dr. T
that proved to me what good flirting actually looks like.
Dating today is harder than ever.
From dating apps to ghosting,
it's really important to nail down this face-to-face skill.
I'll give you this.
Thank you.
Please take a seat.
Oh man.
All right.
Judges, are we ready?
Yes.
I'm ready.
For test number three, the ball is in your court.
You have a date in front of you and three minutes.
Your goal, to have a better three minute date than the other contestants.
Good luck.
In episode four, I had our contestants go on a three minute blind date with our judges.
