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Unlocking the Truth About Your Twenties | Livi Redden | TEDxBayonne
Discover the unspoken realities of navigating your twenties with Livi Redden at TEDxBayonne. Explore how a simple realization transformed one individual's mindset and outlook on life during their formative years.
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The answer is yes, I did play basketball.
Yeah.
I remember the exact day and place my entire life changed and I didn't even know it.
It's April 26th and I'm 18 years old.
I'm in the gym.
I'm listening to a podcast, as I usually do when I work out, and I heard the
podcast guest in my ear say something I'd heard so many of these 30 to 60
something psychologists, activists, authors, and business leaders say many
times before. If I had the same mindset now that I did in my teens or 20s, I'd be
I was such an idiot.
I remember every time I heard those statements expressed with a laugh,
it made me feel sad.
I was entering college.
I didn't want to be miserable.
And then I felt actually pretty irritated.
I refused to be miserable.
Much of this refusal of misery had to do with that just five months earlier,
I had sat hand in hand with my dad as he passed away
after a six-year battle with the terminal disease ALS.
Following that experience, I promised myself
I would not spend a moment of my life hating it,
as I'd learned that time is never promised.
My irritation intensified as I reflected on the fact
that these personal development leaders are rarely
talking to young people specifically.
This didn't make any sense to me,
because I thought, aren't we the ones that need to know this stuff about growth?
mindfulness and emotions the most?
Over the next decade, I was supposed to determine a field of study or career,
potentially find a life partner, decide where to live,
handle personal finances in retirement,
maybe even start a family,
and many other decisions that had lifelong impacts.
But here I was,
with thousands of other high school seniors
receiving the same piece of advice
from most of the adults in our lives.
You've got time.
You'll figure it out.
I just don't think you need to worry about it.
And although this advice is slightly anxiety reducing in the moment,
we are rarely, if ever, given practical emotional and decision-making training,
making the anxiety reducing moments extremely short and fleeting,
because we didn't know how to navigate these decisions we had to make.
And so, with that aha moment in the gym, I found my mission.
to change the rhetoric of what your teens and 20s could and should be, which
brings me to today. And after a bit more study, it turns out teenage Livvy had
some very valid points. Two points in specific. Down to a neurological level,
how we train our brains now in our 20s truly matters when it comes to setting
ourselves up for a less stressful and more fulfilling life.
